<?xml version='1.0' encoding='UTF-8'?><?xml-stylesheet href="http://www.blogger.com/styles/atom.css" type="text/css"?><feed xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom' xmlns:openSearch='http://a9.com/-/spec/opensearchrss/1.0/' xmlns:georss='http://www.georss.org/georss' xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0'><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3747020310608105815</id><updated>2011-11-27T16:27:51.992-07:00</updated><category term='mind'/><category term='commodity'/><category term='emotion'/><category term='negotiation'/><category term='perspective'/><category term='systems'/><category term='what if'/><category term='feelings'/><category term='choices'/><category term='brain'/><category term='relationships'/><category term='useless'/><category term='computers'/><category term='realized'/><category term='thinking'/><category term='life'/><title type='text'>Mind Management</title><subtitle type='html'></subtitle><link rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#feed' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://unirnatp.blogspot.com/feeds/posts/default'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3747020310608105815/posts/default?max-results=100'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://unirnatp.blogspot.com/'/><link rel='hub' href='http://pubsubhubbub.appspot.com/'/><author><name>Stephanie.D.Pope</name><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='30' height='32' src='http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_kdnKbdCDMxE/S3TV_1GVwgI/AAAAAAAAAHs/3kBydDyAx9M/S220/blacksutra.jpg'/></author><generator version='7.00' uri='http://www.blogger.com'>Blogger</generator><openSearch:totalResults>11</openSearch:totalResults><openSearch:startIndex>1</openSearch:startIndex><openSearch:itemsPerPage>100</openSearch:itemsPerPage><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3747020310608105815.post-1380750835989315923</id><published>2009-11-06T09:59:00.001-07:00</published><updated>2009-11-06T10:09:31.653-07:00</updated><title type='text'>Production While Smiling</title><content type='html'>&lt;object classid="clsid:d27cdb6e-ae6d-11cf-96b8-444553540000" codebase="http://fpdownload.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=9,0,0,0" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" width="400px" height="343px" id="InsertWidget_369e8df4-afcc-4037-b9ff-6fee22e424ab" align="middle"&gt;&lt;param name="movie" value="http://widgetserver.com/syndication/flash/wrapper/InsertWidget.swf"/&gt;&lt;param name="quality" value="high" /&gt;&lt;param name="wmode" value="transparent" /&gt;&lt;param name="menu" value="false" /&gt;&lt;param name="flashvars" value="r=2&amp;appId=369e8df4-afcc-4037-b9ff-6fee22e424ab" /&gt; 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After all we are the ones who program them to do the things that they are capable of doing. Just imagine if we were to some day be able to grasp the potentials of the human brain. Incredible.&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/3747020310608105815-6599094289234657803?l=unirnatp.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='related' href='http://www.innertalk.com/?gclid=CLWCyIbd3pwCFRHxDAodWDHGJQ' title='Explore Your Mind'/><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://unirnatp.blogspot.com/feeds/6599094289234657803/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=3747020310608105815&amp;postID=6599094289234657803' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3747020310608105815/posts/default/6599094289234657803'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3747020310608105815/posts/default/6599094289234657803'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://unirnatp.blogspot.com/2009/09/explore-your-mind.html' title='Explore Your Mind'/><author><name>Stephanie.D.Pope</name><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='30' height='32' src='http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_kdnKbdCDMxE/S3TV_1GVwgI/AAAAAAAAAHs/3kBydDyAx9M/S220/blacksutra.jpg'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3747020310608105815.post-4501026734362447114</id><published>2009-09-04T03:12:00.002-07:00</published><updated>2009-09-04T03:22:11.853-07:00</updated><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='choices'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='life'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='what if'/><title type='text'>What is it?</title><content type='html'>Life,&lt;br /&gt;What is it to you?&lt;br /&gt;Is it any and everything we do?&lt;br /&gt;Is it a test we take, with no retakes?&lt;br /&gt;Or is it a gamble with the highest stakes?&lt;br /&gt;Will we know who's life matters?&lt;br /&gt;Is it every life that builds latters?&lt;br /&gt;Is it ours to take it or leave it?&lt;br /&gt;Or is it a fate that we deal with?&lt;br /&gt;What is life anyway?&lt;br /&gt;Is it our childrens time to play?&lt;br /&gt;Should we have riches to leave them behind?&lt;br /&gt;Or are our treasures found in the mind?&lt;br /&gt;Is it a summary of the time here?&lt;br /&gt;Or is it persuing without a fear?&lt;br /&gt;Is it solitude with self knowledge?&lt;br /&gt;Or is it the credits we build in college?&lt;br /&gt;What is life to you, now?&lt;br /&gt;Is it what you want and will allow?&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;SDPope&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/3747020310608105815-4501026734362447114?l=unirnatp.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://unirnatp.blogspot.com/feeds/4501026734362447114/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=3747020310608105815&amp;postID=4501026734362447114' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3747020310608105815/posts/default/4501026734362447114'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3747020310608105815/posts/default/4501026734362447114'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://unirnatp.blogspot.com/2009/09/what-is-it.html' title='What is it?'/><author><name>Stephanie.D.Pope</name><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='30' height='32' src='http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_kdnKbdCDMxE/S3TV_1GVwgI/AAAAAAAAAHs/3kBydDyAx9M/S220/blacksutra.jpg'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3747020310608105815.post-352607516501377821</id><published>2009-08-27T16:33:00.001-07:00</published><updated>2009-08-27T16:33:21.631-07:00</updated><title type='text'>Website Comment Form</title><content type='html'>&lt;script type="text/javascript" src="http://cdn.widgetserver.com/syndication/subscriber/InsertWidget.js"&gt;&lt;/script&gt;&lt;script&gt;if (WIDGETBOX) WIDGETBOX.renderWidget('1fd50ee6-c0ce-4d5f-93b5-dc79b45650fe');&lt;/script&gt;&lt;noscript&gt;Get the &lt;a href="http://www.widgetbox.com/widget/website-comment-form"&gt;Website Comment Form&lt;/a&gt; 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SDPope&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/3747020310608105815-6721338035142078883?l=unirnatp.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://unirnatp.blogspot.com/feeds/6721338035142078883/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=3747020310608105815&amp;postID=6721338035142078883' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3747020310608105815/posts/default/6721338035142078883'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3747020310608105815/posts/default/6721338035142078883'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://unirnatp.blogspot.com/2009/08/perspective.html' title='Perspective'/><author><name>Stephanie.D.Pope</name><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='30' height='32' src='http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_kdnKbdCDMxE/S3TV_1GVwgI/AAAAAAAAAHs/3kBydDyAx9M/S220/blacksutra.jpg'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3747020310608105815.post-8458311049721097599</id><published>2009-08-18T20:30:00.001-07:00</published><updated>2009-08-18T20:30:26.757-07:00</updated><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='emotion'/><title type='text'>Emotion</title><content type='html'>Emotions are impulses to act, on the instant as a means to handle life. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;The root of the word emotion is motere, the Latin verb for " to move ", plus the prefix " e " to connote " move away ", suggesting that there is the impulse to act with every emotion.&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/3747020310608105815-8458311049721097599?l=unirnatp.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://unirnatp.blogspot.com/feeds/8458311049721097599/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=3747020310608105815&amp;postID=8458311049721097599' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3747020310608105815/posts/default/8458311049721097599'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3747020310608105815/posts/default/8458311049721097599'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://unirnatp.blogspot.com/2009/08/emotion.html' title='Emotion'/><author><name>Stephanie.D.Pope</name><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='30' height='32' src='http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_kdnKbdCDMxE/S3TV_1GVwgI/AAAAAAAAAHs/3kBydDyAx9M/S220/blacksutra.jpg'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3747020310608105815.post-5188231624278856519</id><published>2009-08-17T23:12:00.001-07:00</published><updated>2009-08-17T23:12:26.512-07:00</updated><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='feelings'/><title type='text'>Impossible</title><content type='html'>It seems impossible to get control of the mind. Once a feeling has been placed into the thoughts, it is too late. The only thing to control after this is what to do about the feeling. That is where rational and irrational thinking comes into play. Do you ignore it and do what you think to do, or do you give in to the feelings and become its slave?&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/3747020310608105815-5188231624278856519?l=unirnatp.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://unirnatp.blogspot.com/feeds/5188231624278856519/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=3747020310608105815&amp;postID=5188231624278856519' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3747020310608105815/posts/default/5188231624278856519'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3747020310608105815/posts/default/5188231624278856519'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://unirnatp.blogspot.com/2009/08/impossible.html' title='Impossible'/><author><name>Stephanie.D.Pope</name><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='30' height='32' src='http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_kdnKbdCDMxE/S3TV_1GVwgI/AAAAAAAAAHs/3kBydDyAx9M/S220/blacksutra.jpg'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3747020310608105815.post-7778773948091393785</id><published>2009-08-16T19:30:00.007-07:00</published><updated>2009-08-16T20:43:04.868-07:00</updated><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='systems'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='relationships'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='negotiation'/><title type='text'>Seeing Relationships as Systems</title><content type='html'>&lt;a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_kdnKbdCDMxE/SojQ0ERDt2I/AAAAAAAAAA8/scobMS_MHz0/s1600-h/People+at+Work+275.jpg"&gt;&lt;img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 256px;" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_kdnKbdCDMxE/SojQ0ERDt2I/AAAAAAAAAA8/scobMS_MHz0/s320/People+at+Work+275.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5370772148556380002" border="0" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;div style="text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:100%;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:180%;"&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(153, 0, 0); font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;"&gt;Relationships Are Systems&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:100%;"&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);font-family:times new roman;" &gt;The idea is that we are, how we relate, how we act is partly determined by the role we fulfill in our relationships, or systems. While we are a part of the system we are molded to fit. If we are no longer a part of the system the system continues to change, and if we tried to fit back into the system, we would no longer fit right in. By staying involved in a system, or relationship, we are constantly changing in order to remain a comfortable fit within that system.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;div style="text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold; color: rgb(102, 0, 0);font-size:130%;" &gt;&lt;br /&gt;Relationships Are Systems Implicated &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0); font-weight: bold;font-size:130%;" &gt;by 3 Simple Ideas&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;   1.The principle of mutual responsibility&lt;br /&gt;      -&lt;span style="font-style: italic;"&gt; Within a system, responsibility must be shared by everyone&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;   2.The principle of homeostasis&lt;br /&gt;      - &lt;span style="font-style: italic;"&gt;You will be resisted when you try to change the way that you relate to others&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;   3. The principle of negotiation&lt;br /&gt;      - &lt;span style="font-style: italic;"&gt;The best way to advance changes within a system is through negotiation &lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;div style="text-align: center; color: rgb(102, 0, 0); font-weight: bold;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:130%;"&gt;Negotiating is not about dividing options; it is about creating new options&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;ul style="font-style: italic;"&gt;&lt;li&gt;Find out what everyone wants&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Look for common ground&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Broaden the support and reasons for negotiation&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Look for opportunities to trade&lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ul&gt;&lt;div style="text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:130%;"&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0); font-weight: bold;"&gt;Strategies for negotiation:&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;ol&gt;&lt;li style="font-style: italic;"&gt;Clarify&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li style="font-style: italic;"&gt;Build on what the other person says&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li style="font-style: italic;"&gt;Do not place blame&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li style="font-style: italic;"&gt;Watch out for escalation&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;&lt;span style="font-style: italic;"&gt;Bottle up the insults&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ol&gt;&lt;span&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"&gt;SDPope&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-style: italic;"&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"&gt;&lt;span style="font-style: italic;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"&gt;&lt;!--Session data--&gt;&lt;input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"&gt;&lt;div id="refHTML"&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/3747020310608105815-7778773948091393785?l=unirnatp.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://unirnatp.blogspot.com/feeds/7778773948091393785/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=3747020310608105815&amp;postID=7778773948091393785' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3747020310608105815/posts/default/7778773948091393785'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3747020310608105815/posts/default/7778773948091393785'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://unirnatp.blogspot.com/2009/08/seeing-relationships-as-systems.html' title='Seeing Relationships as Systems'/><author><name>Stephanie.D.Pope</name><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='30' height='32' src='http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_kdnKbdCDMxE/S3TV_1GVwgI/AAAAAAAAAHs/3kBydDyAx9M/S220/blacksutra.jpg'/></author><media:thumbnail xmlns:media='http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/' url='http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_kdnKbdCDMxE/SojQ0ERDt2I/AAAAAAAAAA8/scobMS_MHz0/s72-c/People+at+Work+275.jpg' height='72' width='72'/><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3747020310608105815.post-7026787891595586179</id><published>2009-08-15T22:27:00.004-07:00</published><updated>2009-08-15T23:19:00.405-07:00</updated><title type='text'>The Goal Is To Improve On Our Relationships</title><content type='html'>&lt;span style="font-size:180%;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-style: italic;"&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;div style="text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:180%;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-style: italic;"&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"&gt;                           &lt;span style="font-weight: bold;"&gt;        &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold;"&gt;Key&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold;"&gt; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold;"&gt;To&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold;"&gt; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold;"&gt;Good&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold;"&gt; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold;"&gt;Relationships&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:130%;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-style: italic;"&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:130%;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-style: italic;"&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:130%;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-style: italic;"&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"&gt;                                                          Be Fair&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-style: italic;"&gt; To Yourself And To Others&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: times new roman;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:130%;"&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(204, 0, 0);"&gt;                                                         &lt;br /&gt;A.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt; The Framework&lt;br /&gt;&lt;ol&gt;&lt;li&gt;Build up your confidence and self-esteem.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Clarify what you want.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;&lt;span&gt;Lay&lt;/span&gt; &lt;span&gt;claim&lt;/span&gt; &lt;span&gt;To&lt;/span&gt; &lt;span&gt;your&lt;/span&gt; &lt;span&gt;rights&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ol&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: times new roman;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:130%;"&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(153, 0, 0);"&gt;B.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt; &lt;span&gt;Specific&lt;/span&gt; &lt;span&gt;Skills&lt;/span&gt;&lt;ol&gt;&lt;li&gt;Listen To others&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Speak by using the unselfish word "I"&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Stick To The important points&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Manage criticism and complaints&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Use your body to back yourself up&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;&lt;span&gt;Say&lt;/span&gt; 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